From: (Anonymous)	Date: September 28th, 2003 02:09 am (UTC)		(Link)
partner is poly but not sure if he himself is also poly

What do you say to this situation? A couple is in a loving relationship for a decade and has never known anyone who is poly. They have always been honest about their attractions to other people which never developed into secondary relationships. They have never thought such attractions would so develop anyway. But when the woman went abroad for a few months and met another man from whom she felt genuine love, she discovered for herself that she was capable of conceiving and actually deciding to "share herself" with others in an equally loving and caring relationship. However, she did not get into a relationship because the man was married and was not ready to tell his wife about his feelings for her. When the woman goes back to his partner, she continues communicating and sustaining her friendship with the married man from abroad. And then she tells to her partner about it. (It's like a "coming out".}

The man understands that his partner is "poly" in accordance with your description of what a "poly" is like. In fact, exactly in accordance with your description.

He suspects that the reason he could sympathize with her is that he is also a "poly" but is not so sure about it. He gets so hurt sometimes just thinking that their relationship somehow changed.

From: (Anonymous)	Date: January 22nd, 2004 01:28 am (UTC)		(Link)
Ah, THAT's what it is...

Heyas,

I found your explanations of Polyamory very enlightening & educational (seeing as I didn't know what it meant). I'd heard the word before, but I assumed it meant an African Grey (or possibly a Norwegian Blue) wielding a Glock 17, Steyr AUG, FN P-90, SA-80, AK-47, Desert Eagle & a Barrett L-50

(runs to avoid pun-induced expletives, thrown objects & spells)

Cheers,

Rob.

(fellow comrade-in-fur with a somewhat twisted sense of humour, interest in military hardware & Terrie Smith art)

From: (Anonymous)	Date: April 17th, 2004 10:00 pm (UTC)		(Link)

Dear Polyamorous Friends:
This is a subject that I was first introduced to in Germany in the early 1960's and has remained an interest ever since. I agree with most of the statements in this essay ... although I still have many questions about this life style, as well as my own ability to interact in all of the ways that make polyamory work successfully. What about such subjects as "special interests" in polyamorous relationships: my own interests run to relationship styles like group marriage and multiple couples marriage. On the "intimate" side my interests run to ideas about "spiritual, emotional, and intellectual" bonding. And on the physical level I am interested in both polyamorous and biamorous relationships which include multiple committed couples. On the personal level I am both experimental and oral ... clitoral and vaginal enlargement, "clit pumping," and breast and clit modification are also an interest ... as are biamorous activities like sucking sperm from the vagina of my wife or another woman they've had intercourse and taking ejaculation directly in my own mouth. How do any of these things fit into the polyamorous group and community. Although I and my partner have strong sexual interests, we do not want merely "swinging" ... we desire something more in the line of a group marriage with other committed couples. Anyone who has any ideas, pro or con, about how we might enter into such relationships, or how we might find couples with compatable spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and sexual interests, please e-mail us at railwayorphin@yahoo.com We are interested in hearing from people who have similar interests, experiences, or advice about the kinds of things I have mentioned here. Thanks and hope you can answer some of our concerns, ideas, desires, and inquiries in a discrete communication with us.

From: roepipi	Date: July 10th, 2004 07:02 am (UTC)		(Link)

I'd like to live as a member of a poly group... in Hungary.

From: (Anonymous)	Date: December 13th, 2004 10:21 pm (UTC)		(Link)
thank you

hi , im a 42 year old guy and i chanced on your site whilst looking for info on the goth scene....its been a real eye opener , Ive just found the label to apply to myself. Ive had 3 really good relationships ruined because other partners couldnt understand my need to be really close (not sexually but emotionally ) with another women or guy. ive always tried to be honest but its always gone horribly wrong because my partner just didnt understand.
again thanks , i now have a place from which to start to find myself before embarking on another disasterous mono relationship.
hippiepunk, you can find me under that name on myspace

From: (Anonymous)	Date: August 15th, 2005 03:02 am (UTC)		(Link)

i loved it!!!.

From: (Anonymous)	Date: January 24th, 2006 07:55 pm (UTC)		(Link)

What makes you think the group sex is Purely a male hetrosexual fantasy,